Are you horrified?
Ezra 9:1-2 The Action of Sin
…the princes approached me, saying, "The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites HAVE NOT SEPARATED THEMSELVES from the peoples of the lands, according to their abominations, those of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians and the Amorites. For they have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and for their sons, so that the holy race has intermingled with the peoples of the lands; indeed, the hands of the princes and the rulers have been foremost in this unfaithfulness."
Ezra 9:3-4 The Reaction of Holiness
When I heard about this matter, I tore my garment and my robe, and pulled some of the hair from my head and my beard, and sat down APPALLED. Then everyone who trembled at the words of the God of Israel on account of the unfaithfulness of the exiles gathered to me, and I sat APPALLED until the evening offering.
To be appalled is to be surprised by horror, to be horrified. Have you ever been so frightened that the color went out of your face? That is appalled. When Ezra learned that the believers had married unbelievers, he was horrified. He could not stand. He had to sit in shock and horror.
If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, dating or marrying an unbeliever is a horrifying thing. You may not be appalled, but God is. God has joined you to His Son. If you join your heart to an unbeliever, you are joining your Savior, Jesus Christ, to the sin, death and shame of that unbeliever.
Ezra knew that God removed His children to the land of Egypt because Jacob's family failed to separate from Canaan. Israel suffered a civil war because Solomon married unbelievers and corrupted the nation. Northern Israel was joined to unbelievers, and God swept them off the map by Assyrians. Judah (southern Israel) followed northern Israel and refused to separate from the women and gods of Canaan. God took away their country and carried them to Babylon for seventy years. Ezra knows that God will do it again for the sake of God's holy name. He is appalled.
God asks you to be separate in all your behavior from the world. He has proven in history that He is serious. He joined Israel to Himself and He joins believers today to His one and only Son. It is a serious love relationship that should not be broken.
You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God?
Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
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Are you having trouble breaking a bad relationship? Read Ezra 7 to the end of the book.
For me to live is Christ.