If it please the king, let letters be given me…and a letter to Asaph the keeper of the king's forest, that he may give me timber to make beams for the gates of the fortress which is by the temple, for the wall of the city and for the house to which I will go.
Nehemiah had done extensive preplanning and praying. When the king asked, he was able to give the king a definite time table and specific material needs. One of those needs was the house to which he would go. The request for a house was for himself, but his request was not selfish.
We need to ask God for every need for the work. We also need to ask God for every need for ourselves. We don't ignore SELF, but we deny SELFISHNESS. I hope we can discern the difference.
Nehemiah was very careful to avoid selfishness and even the appearance of selfishness. Read what he says later in the book.
For twelve years, neither I nor my kinsmen have eaten the governor's food allowance. But the former governors who were before me laid burdens on the people and took from them bread and wine besides forty shekels of silver; even their servants domineered the people. But I did not do so because of the fear of God.
Look to the good hand of God for you needs and fear God.
For me to live is Christ.